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    Spiritual Aging: Beyond Doctor Visits and Exercise Plans

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    how to wait, spiritual aging, illness

    A reader recently asked why we seem to focus more on physical issues as we age than the spiritual ones. When my friend Sarah turned 75, her calendar…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    Do You Believe in God?

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    symbols of faith

    Do you believe in God? And do you practice that belief in some form of traditional religion? Or, like many, do you struggle with matters of faith?Let me…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    Finding Peace in the Darkness Before Dawn

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    Man lifting his arms in thanksgiving ion early morning darkness before dawn

    Today, I'm excited to explore a lesser-known but profoundly nourishing spiritual practice: embracing the tranquility of the  darkness before dawn

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    Aging and Spirituality, the Pilgrimage Within

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    old aging tree trunk

    Aging and a growing interest in spirituality seem to go hand in hand. Looking at aging as a pilgrimage, here are some questions to ask yourself.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    Introvert or Extrovert and Spirituality

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    Two cats - extrovert and introvert

    How does your personality influence your spirituality? A look at the importance of embracing yourself just the way you are, whether that is introvert, extrovert ,or ambivert.

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  • Aging,  Spiritual Growth

    Embracing Wrinkles as Maps of Wisdom

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    old lady with agency and kind face and wrinkles

    I wonder if wrinkles are more than just signs of aging but also maps of our spiritual pilgrimage. Every line on our faces represents a significant moment in…

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  • Spiritual Growth

    When Technology, Spirituality, and Religion Each Call

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    hands holding a prayer book and cell phone - technology, spirituality and religion meet

    Sometimes we feel a call from technology, religion, and spirituality at the same time. Religions, as well as spiritual practices, are not right for everyone. I didn’t always…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    How our spirituality is affected by aging

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    Our spiritualty is a result of many factors, but growing older may be one of the most important. This article looks at how spirituality is affected by aging.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    What is the Value of Failure

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    man holds hands to face in shame for not knowing the value of failure

    When we count all of our assets toward the end of life, we don't want to forget the value of failure that has given us seeds of wisdom…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    What do technology and spirituality have in common

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    a woman uses her laptop computer as technology for spiritual growth by connecting with friends all over the world

    Although technology isn't often recognized for its role in spiritual, or inner, growth, this article looks at its role in spirituality as well as creativity.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    How to find the magic of ‘we’ in a relationship or community

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    three woman dancing as they experience the magic of we

    A reflection of the magical power that happens when people are together in relationship or community to share and to grow.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    Spiritual practice as a path to inner peace

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    man stands at fork in a path in choosing a spiritual practice

    Reflections on the meanings of spiritual practice and how we find ourselves on any particular paths as we go through life.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    How to feed your spirit when churches close

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    old church with closed doors

    As more and more places of worship close their doors, people are left to satisfy their spiritual hunger in new ways.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    How to Learn the Art of Listening in a Noisy World

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    silouette of couple practicing art of listening to each other as they sit on a dock. Hard to do when the subject is death.

    The art of listening is really a skill that takes years of practice to learn, much like anything else in life.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    The Journey of Life from Womb to Grave

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    newborn on first journey of life

     We speak a lot about the journey of life, but do we ever think much about the process of travel from birth to death?  How do we get…

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