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    Meekness, Humility, and Growing Older

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    A monkey tries to answer questions by looking in a mirror..aged to perfection, humility

    Meekness and humility are not the same thing — and the difference matters more than I realized

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    Living the Questions

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    Living the Questions What Jane Goodall, Rumi, and Rilke taught me about aging, illness, and letting go of certaintyJane Goodall, who died last fall at 91, once said...

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    The Pilgrimage of Aging

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    “I can’t control what’s happening in the world.But I can put one foot in front of the other and walk my pilgrimage.” — Joanna Penn

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  • Life Challenges

    Illness as a Spiritual Practice

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    Doctor with crossed arms delivering a difficult diagnosis; illness

    Illness  as a spiritual practice? I would rather not think so... I’ve written a number of reflections over the years about spiritual practice as it appears in daily…

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    Learning to Live at Sixty – A Reflection on Aging

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    Aging alone, I was sitting in a wheelchair on the 4th floor of a busy rehab hospital—five hundred miles from home—on my 60th birthday. Not even a simple…

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    The Body Remembers

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    two white haired aging ladies on a bench discussing the meaning and purpose of growing old, memory

    Suppose for a moment that our aging bodies carried not only scars and wrinkles of the years gone by, but also every dream we once dreamed…

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    A Reflection on Aging

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    A dachshund using willpower to carry a stick much bigger than he is

    There was a time—long ago—when carrying groceries wasn’t even part of the conversation. At 26, I was learning to carry something far heavier: a diagnosis.

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    Growing Whole, Not Old: Embracing Spiritual Evolution in Later Life

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    aging woman with kind eyes- whole not old

    The journey to growing whole begins when society expects us to start winding down. While wrinkles deepen and hair whitens, something remarkable happens beneath the surface—

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    Spiritual Reflections on Illness and Aging

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    After avoiding the illness that changed the world, I finally experienced firsthand the effects of COVID-19 in my own body. Following are reflections on the gifts of that…

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  • Life Challenges

    Spiritual Aging: Beyond Doctor Visits and Exercise Plans

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    how to wait, spiritual aging, illness

    A reader recently asked why we seem to focus more on physical issues as we age than the spiritual ones. When my friend Sarah turned 75, her calendar…

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      Finding Fun in the Process of Aging

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    aging woman in wheelchair, grace

    Are you having fun in this process we call aging? Not just finding ways to have fun despite growing older, but discovering joy in the actual journey of…

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  • Aging

    Growing Old for the Fun of It

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    I often say “I am growing old for the fun of it,” but the other day I stumbled stepping off a curb and I an image of myself…

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  • Aging

    What holds you back from living a full life?

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    What is it that holds us back from living the fullest life possible as we age? Most of life is about moving forward, achieving, acquiring and growing.

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  • Aging

    Aging Gratefully

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    golden retreiver with a toy in his mouth, aging gratefully

    Are you aging gratefully? Growing older is a privilege that not everyone gets to experience. Some days I think my dog understands gratefulness and aging better than I...

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  • Aging

    Growing Old Gracefully: Reflections on Embracing Aging with Wisdom and Humor

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    two white haired aging ladies on a bench discussing the meaning and purpose of growing old, memory

    The more years go by, the more I realize that growing old gracefully isn't about having it all figured out. It's about keeping that youthful spirit alive -…

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