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  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    How do you feel when you say NO?

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    woman clinging to hand but looking at horizon. Does she want to say no?

    I learned how to say "NO" when I learned the secret of pacing in life. It was a matter of life and death.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging,  Creativity,  Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    What is an Ethical Will and the Steps to Creating One

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    Man hold glowing lightbulb to symbolize an ethical will

    An ethical will can leave light in the lives of your heirs through your values, life lessons and principles, shared through your writing and preservation of snippets of…

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  • Creativity,  Spiritual Growth

    How to see creativity and spirituality as a matched set

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    creativity and spirituality considerthrough the images of a clear round crystal ball before trees

    Is there a difference between creativity and spirituality and do they influence each other in our everyday lives?

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging,  Spiritual Growth

    Will you be having fun when you are old?

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    old woman having fun wearing colorful hat

    Is having fun possible when you reach a point in life where every joint aches, you can’t hear conversations and you forget everyone’s name and who is President?

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  • Aging,  Spiritual Growth

    Three more lists besides a bucket list you may want to consider

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    bucket list on a chalkboard

    Besides a bucket list, here are three more lists that you may want to keep and share with friends and family before you die.

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  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    How to allow curiosity as a superpower for your life

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    And owl tilts his head with curiosity as to about meaning and purpose

    Letting curiosity be your superpower can lead to unanticipated consequences when you ask questions and make the answers part of. your life.

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  • Aging

      How to Avoid Growing Up Before Growing Old

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    never too grown up to play in the sand barefoot

    Are you confused about what it means to 'grow up?' And is it necessary to grow up as we age? A humorous look at this dilemma follows.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Dekker

    Dekker Offers His Wisdom to Humans

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    Dekker has wisdom about God

    Dekker responds to concerns about wearing a mask, living with a noisy roommate, and dealing with an unfaithful wife among other questions.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges

    Creative Solutions When Walking is Difficult

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    Sitting on a walker called the 'Goat' aging

    When walking gets difficult it isn't necessary to give it up when there are so many creative - and fun - solutions!

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges

    How to be a Comfort to Someone Who is Terminally Ill

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    two people with clasped hands talking about death

    Comforting someone who is terminally ill calls for learning to listen, to be present, to encourage a life review, and to be vulnerable.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges

    Are there any benefits of aging?

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    two white haired aging ladies on a bench discussing the meaning and purpose of growing old, memory

    The benefits of aging can sometimes be best understood in the old vehicles we continue to drive, like the rusty Ford 150 with the odd-colored tailgate that has…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Dekker

    Dekker Gives Advice to People with Questions

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    Dekker gives advice

    Dekker, a service dog, gives advice to five people who look to him for words of wisdom as they struggle with life.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    When You Sit With a Dying Person

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    mystery that is revealed when you sit with a dying person illustrated by feather floating above an open hand

    How to look beyond grief and find peace while sitting at the bedside of a loved one who is dying is explained in comparison to childbirth. The joy…

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  • Spiritual Growth

    Yearning and Lust as Examples of Dualistic Thinking

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    two cups illustrating black and white, or dualistic thinking

    The problem of dualistic thinking is illustrated by exploring the difference between yearning and lusting as if it were an either/or question.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging,  Spiritual Growth

    How You Can Live A Fulfilled Life at Any Age

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    how to live a fulfilled life symbolized by an orange butterfly

        What does it mean to live a fulfilled life?    When asked what it means to live a fulfilled life, Dr. Joos Meyer, a medical doctor…

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