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    The Joy of Gratitude: Simple Ways of Giving Thanks

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    Showing gratitude at sunrise

    The joy of gratitude is an acquired joy that comes with practice. I was taught as a very young child to say “thank you” and most of the…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Dekker

    Dekker Speaks

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    Dekker ponders a basket of yarn

    Dekker is a British black lab who is a service dog by day and a writer by night. His greatest joy is sharing his thoughts about human behavior.

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  • Aging,  Spiritual Growth

    How Old Do You Have to Be to Become a Crone

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    statue of a crone for the post "how old do you have to be to be a crone"

    Well, if there isn’t a specific age for crones and no certification from an institution of higher learning, and when you look in the mirror you aren’t looking…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges

    Do You Know What To Do Before Being Hit by a Bus?

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    People don’t often survive a head-on collision with a speeding bus when they are out for an evening stroll. It is often easier to talk about buses than…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    How Can We Entertain Our Feelings of Grief?

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    strong man holding weak child with feelings of grief and tears

    We have an energy crisis, and I am not referring to an oil shortage. I am thinking about all the energy it takes to keep the doors and…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging

    How Old Is Old Enough?

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    How old is old enough? two children on the shore pointing to the horizon.

    I am not sure when my desire to be older came to a halt, but there was a period in my life I didn’t think about aging much…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Dekker

    Dear Dekker

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    Dekker, the dog who has a lot of wisdom

    Dear Dekker, I am writing to you because I have what some people call mid-winter blues. I can’t seem to find the energy to keep going.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    What is the Meaning of Reflective Practice

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    man waiting in reflective practice, doubt and prayer - boredom; holes

    Reflective practice is the art of thinking in a way that not only brings a deeper understanding of an issue but, more importantly, fosters real change in our…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    Why Is It So Hard To Pray When Someone Asks

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    why is it so hard to pray

    Why is it so hard to pray when someone asks? What is it that makes prayer something that many people do in private but shy away from if…

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  • Spiritual Growth

    What Do People Mean When they Say They Are Not Religious?

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    Woman sitting in the power of silence on a mournain peak, stories wondering if she were religious, learning to be a human being

    Is it necessary to align oneself to a set of creeds or a place of worship to be considered religious? What is inside of people that sees them…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Dekker

    Dekker on Aging

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    Dekker as a pup helps with spiritual growth

    Hi. If we haven't met before, my name is Dekker. I welcome you to this site where I write once a month to help people out with their…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    How do you answer the question Who are you?

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    Who are you wonders the Rodin sculpture 'The thinker'. and how do you know what you know

    If you have ever been asked "who do you think you are?" how do you answer? I recently wrote a post about authenticity in which I ended with…

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  • Spiritual Growth

    What Does it Mean to Live with Authenticity?

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    authenticity cat wearing sunglasses

    What does it mean to live with authenticity? I have never given much thought to who the REAL Ardis is—underneath my fears, beneath my fantasies, even behind my…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Dekker

    Dekker Shares His Observations About People

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    Woof Woof!! My name is Dekker, and once a month I get to share my observations about people's behavior and answer questions that readers (and sometimes their pets)…

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  • Spiritual Growth

    When Technology, Spirituality, and Religion Each Call

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    hands holding a prayer book and cell phone - technology, spirituality and religion meet

    Sometimes we feel a call from technology, religion, and spirituality at the same time. Religions, as well as spiritual practices, are not right for everyone. I didn’t always…

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