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    WHERE GRACE HIDES

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    An old lady wears a colorful red and yellow striped sobrero, perhaps to celebrate aging. Grace

    What does grace look like when our bodies betray us? It’s an uncomfortable question—one we often avoid. We speak of grace as if it always arrives clean and…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    ALL LIFE HAS MEANING

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    a man walks a labrynth, perhaps he is looking to feed a hungry soul. Ardis Mayo, meaning of life

    All Life Has Meaning. First in a 5-part series. from The Reflective Pen Manifesto. Suppose for a moment that all of life—not just the “good parts”—had meaning.

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    When Everyone Is Dying

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    dog with his chin on the floor feeling grief and loss and question the purpose of living. facing an obstacle with no solution.everyone is dying

    What do we do when everyone seems to be dying? Lately, that question has followed me from week to week. I’ve been to six funerals in the past…

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  • Dekker

    Wisdom from Dekker

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    Dekker the Service Dog waits by a fog with mist

    As I, Dekker the Service Dog, settle in with my nose tucked under one paw and the other stretched out just far enough to feel the cool tile,…

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    A Reflection on Aging

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    A dachshund using willpower to carry a stick much bigger than he is

    There was a time—long ago—when carrying groceries wasn’t even part of the conversation. At 26, I was learning to carry something far heavier: a diagnosis.

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  • Aging,  Creativity

    The Story We Carry and the Ones We Let Go

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    story memories have weight

    The Story We Carry and the Ones We Let Go - What If Memories Had Weight?Not the kind you can step on a scale and measure—but something else.…

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  • Life Challenges

    The Beauty of Boredom-Embracing Slow Days as Spiritual Space

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    man waiting in reflective practice, doubt and prayer - boredom; holes

    What if boredom isn’t a problem to solve—but an invitation? We’re taught early on that boredom means something’s wrong. We should be doing more, moving faster, staying busy.…

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  • Dekker

    Wisdom from Dekker: What Our Pets Leave Behind (and What They Don’t)

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    Dekker, the dog who has a lot of wisdom

    Wisdom from Dekker: What Our Pets Leave Behind (and What They Don’t) As I, known by all as Dekker, lie in my favorite sunspot by the window, I…

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  • Spiritual Growth

    Gardening as a Teacher of Prayer–The Rhythm of Planting, Pruning, and Waiting

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    yellow flower as example of a tiny thing held in cupped hands, gardening prayer

    Gardening as a Teacher of Prayer--The Rhythm of Planting, Pruning, and ... Suppose prayer isn’t something you say at all. Suppose it’s something you grow — quietly, stubbornly,…

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    Old Pets, New Lessons

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    A contemplative dog rests his chin on the sheets as he ponders the purpose of living. Old pet

    I had a dog once who waited for me to come home from the hospital, even though no one had explained where I’d gone. He simply waited. On…

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  • Aging,  Spiritual Growth

    Prayer – How Does It Change With Age?

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    Being still holding a cup of tea, looking for peace and resilience; prayer

    Some mornings, I sit with my hands wrapped around a mug of tea and realize I haven’t spoken a single word. Not to another soul. Not even in…

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    Aging to Perfection

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    aging and illness, aging gracefully

    Suppose for a moment that aging were entirely optional. That you could hit pause at 45, keep the skin taut, the knees bendy, the memory sharp. Would you…

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  • Dekker

    Dekker Writes Again

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    Dekker sleeps on organ pedals, rest

    Slowing Down, Stretching Out, and Smelling What Matters  As I (Dekker—service dog, squirrel whisperer, and expert in naps) stretch out in a sunny patch on the floor, I…

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    When Life Hands You a Diagnosis— How to Receive, Accept, and Keep Living (and Laughing)

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    Doctor with crossed arms delivering a difficult diagnosis; illness

    How do you keep living when you receive a difficult diagnosis? Suppose for a moment that your body was a house, and one day, you found a crack…

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  • Aging,  Life Challenges

    Say Goodbye Without Regret 

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    Couple standing at cemetery saying; goodbye; growing whole not old

    What does it mean to say goodbye when there’s still time—but not enough of it?I recently lost a dear friend. We had one of those slow goodbyes, the…

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