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    Why Tiny Things Matter Most in Life

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    yellow flower as example of a tiny thing held in cupped hands

    It is hard to grasp that tiny things can make the biggest impact on our lives. Little details are essential in achieving long-term goals.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    Two ways you can begin practicing for death today

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    embracing stone statue to depict practicing for death...or joy in difficult times

    We find the strength for accepting death when we have been showing hospitality to death all along. This article lays out two ways to do this.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging

    How to claim agency in our old age

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    old lady who can claim agency lifting her hand to say stop, saying no

    How we claim agency and remain autonomous as we age is a matter of choice and something to be celebrated, regardless of disability or loss.

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  • Spiritual Growth

    How to Learn the Art of Listening in a Noisy World

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    silouette of couple practicing art of listening to each other as they sit on a dock. Hard to do when the subject is death.

    The art of listening is really a skill that takes years of practice to learn, much like anything else in life.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    How to Smile with the Challenge of Downsizing

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    large house with the challenge of downsizing

    With life changes comes an inevitable need to downsize, to eliminate a collection of a lifetime, and to control clutter. Here's one way to crack resistance and get…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging

    Is there a difference between aging and growing old?

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    old aging tree trunk

    Is there a distinction between aging and growing old? This brief article explores one difference.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    The Journey of Life from Womb to Grave

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    newborn on first journey of life

     We speak a lot about the journey of life, but do we ever think much about the process of travel from birth to death?  How do we get…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    How to Wait Without Losing Your Mind

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    how to wait, spiritual aging, illness

      How to wait for something, especially the unknown, challenges even the most patient of people. There is waiting…and then there is WAITING.  Waiting for a bus or…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Dekker,  Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    Dekker shares his wisdom

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    Dekker gives advice

    People write to Dekker for answers to everyday problems and to get his advice for living well despite challenges.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Spiritual Growth

    What can you do when you fail?

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    man covering face wonders what to do when you fail

    How long does it take to fail? In the blink of an eye you may hit the delete button, crash a car or start a forest fire. Then…

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Creativity,  Dekker

    Do you know what your pet is thinking?

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    Is this tabby cat thinking about meaning and purpose or passion and calling?

    When you look into the big round eyes of your dog or cat, do you ever wonder what they are thinking? Here are some ways to find out.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Life Challenges,  Spiritual Growth

    How do you feel when you say NO?

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    woman clinging to hand but looking at horizon. Does she want to say no?

    I learned how to say "NO" when I learned the secret of pacing in life. It was a matter of life and death.

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Creativity,  Spiritual Growth

    How to see creativity and spirituality as a matched set

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    creativity and spirituality considerthrough the images of a clear round crystal ball before trees

    Is there a difference between creativity and spirituality and do they influence each other in our everyday lives?

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging,  Spiritual Growth

    Will you be having fun when you are old?

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    old woman having fun wearing colorful hat

    Is having fun possible when you reach a point in life where every joint aches, you can’t hear conversations and you forget everyone’s name and who is President?

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    Ardis Mayo
  • Aging,  Spiritual Growth

    Three more lists besides a bucket list you may want to consider

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    bucket list on a chalkboard

    Besides a bucket list, here are three more lists that you may want to keep and share with friends and family before you die.

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